As I turn on my computer to log in for the first session with Leanne and Chris, before anyone says a word, I notice right away how tight her mouth is and sad her eyes are. I notice Chris settles uncomfortably into his chair, it was clear to see how unsure he felt about our first appointment. The questions I ask are designed to get to the heart of the matter, so right away I discover there are two young children observing Mom and Dad yelling at each other or stonewalling mixed into family life. I begin the session by asking Leanne to describe her parents. “Tell me about your mom, Leanne”, I ask warmly to set them both at … [Read more]
When I see my husband play with our son, I can clearly see how much has changed within just one generation related to how emotionally available father’s are to their children. His own father overwhelmed with work and providing for the family matched with emotional closures left over from his own father’s trauma from World War II kept their relationship distant. This emotional history for his Dad kept them from simply playing, laughing and connecting together with ease throughout their father – son relationship. How do you experience your relationship with your father? Does being alone with your father make you feel awkward or uncomfortable? Do you sometimes feel that your dad doesn’t actually know you very well? Are … [Read more]
How Your DNA Influences Your Child with Debbie Pokornik of Vibrant, Powerful Moms Show
As our session began, Gloria shared “I’ve been drinking 3 – 5 Coke’s since my teens … so I guess I’m coming close to 30 years now. I stopped for awhile, I don’t think my stomach could take anymore. When the habit took hold again, I decided Diet Coke could be a better choice.” Health issues aside for a moment, what Gloria felt was even worse was the sense of powerlessness she felt to change the habit. What she wanted most was to feel free. Free of the embarrassment she felt when she passed the recycling bin with the overflowing empty cans, free to make healthier choices, free to set a better example for her children. Gloria grew up in … [Read more]
I met Heather at a time when she felt unappreciated at work and most of time felt that her boss favoured her colleagues and ignored her. From the water cooler to the lunchroom to her office she spent most of the day feeling left out out the loop. Her work environment was beginning to feel unbearable. The emotional toll this took on Heather, didn’t leave her with much confidence to either apply for another job or finally follow her dream of studying nutrition and building a business around educating others about the healing powers of whole foods and creating a healthy lifestyle. She attended one of my workshops and as the day went on, she shared with me how completely … [Read more]
I will never forget how surprised I felt when I heard the news that I was expecting twins. The pregnancy was our first surprise, – and now: twins! After settling into our new reality, the excitement began and so did the planning. Within a couple of weeks, my partner had decided to take a transfer with his work so we could move from the west coast across Canada to be closer to family. In fact, he had already moved across the country to be begin training for his new position when I went – solo – for a follow up ultrasound with our new doctor, who specialized in twin pregnancies. I was prepared for a routine check up, and … [Read more]
What if you had insights into your earliest experiences in life, to give you clues for why you need what you do in your relationships? What the body remembers leaves clues for the challenges we face today. Lauren came into my office wanting to explore what had contributed to the end of her 10 year marriage. Still reeling from her husband’s announcement that he was leaving her for the “other woman”. Her greatest fear had come to light. She was alone. What was worse, alone at night, scared, vulnerable and most of all angry. As we worked together, I invited her to explore the inner territory of the sensations that lived in her body. This opened up new insights about … [Read more]
“He walks through life as if he’s under a black cloud. When he comes home from work, the whole house feels heavier. And I can never get him to spend any money on anything besides essentials.” Monica’s list of complaints about the man with whom she shares her life – and 5 children – is far from unique. We hear these types of grievances between couples all the time. Which begs the question: Despite breakthroughs in psychological science and major advances in the field of couples’ therapy, why do marriages continue to fall apart? Have you ever wondered why you and your partner come up against the same issues again and again, no matter how much work you put into … [Read more]
Holly sends in her question to The Family Imprint show asking what to do after discovering her husband’s affair. She wants to rebuild trust and get to an even stronger place in her marriage after infidelity.
Before we can hope to change our children’s behavior, its helpful to be aware of why children respond to challenges the way they do.