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The Individualist

The Big Reveal: Lacking emotional security in your first five years—essential for thriving—can fundamentally shape your ability to connect with others.

The truth is the first 5 years of life have so much to do with how the next 80 turn out. 

You might struggle to trust support from others, relying heavily on your independence.

Challenges with setting and expressing boundaries may arise, stemming from a belief that love and acceptance are earned through your actions, rather than your inherent worth.

Therapists often call this Attachment Interrupted

You might live somewhat detached from your emotions, favoring logic and self-reliance instead.

Your Essence: Self-reliance is the shield I need to protect my heart.

Questions to Consider: Every catch yourself doing everything because you can’t trust someone else can do it as good as you can? 

​Do you do most of the giving in your friendships & relationships?

Insight: While your independence serves you well in many situations, it can sometimes lead to feelings of isolation and difficulty in forming deep connections. 

Do any of these feel all too familiar?

  • Emotional detachment that ends up impacting intimate relationships

  • The feeling of “it’s all up to me”

  • Challenges in setting and expressing boundaries

  • Trust issues that end up affecting personal and professional interactions

Be Aware: Over-reliance on self may isolate you, making deep connections challenging.


Recommendation: Start a journal about moments when you felt the need to do everything yourself.  Imagine what it would be like to receive support.

Silver Lining: Your independence can be a superpower that, when balanced with vulnerability, can not only foster deeper connections and authentic relationships but also cultivate success in your professional life.

Personal Action Plan

Explore Your Family History: Gather insights into what was happening for your parents when you were under 5 years old, understanding how their experiences shaped their ability to provide meaningful support to you.

Body Awareness Practice: Tune into your body's signals when setting healthy boundaries with the intention of matching how your body feels inside with what you are expressing on the outside.

Pay special attention to how your body responds to different interactions and situations.


Build a Support Network: Reach out to trusted individuals who can provide guidance and support as you navigate challenges related to trust and reliance.

Next Step: Embracing vulnerability doesn't mean sacrificing independence; it enhances it. Your journey towards balanced self-reliance is a courageous one.

Congratulations on taking the first steps toward understanding yourself better through your quiz results. 

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