The Individualist
Lacking emotional security in your first five years—essential for thriving—can fundamentally shape your ability to connect with others.
The truth is the first 5 years of life have so much to do with how the next 80 turn out.
You might struggle to trust support from others, relying heavily on your independence.
The Wound - "you weren't there for me when I need you most, so I have a hard time trusting others or really counting on them"
I am independent.
The Lesson - the practice of letting people into your life in their own way, you can heal the deeper attachment break from your early life by letting people show up for you, just as they are.
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Therapists often call this Attachment Interrupted
Challenges with setting and expressing boundaries may arise, stemming from a belief that love and acceptance are earned through your actions, rather than your inherent worth.
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You might live somewhat detached from your emotions, favoring logic and self-reliance instead.
Your Essence: Self-reliance is the shield I need to protect my heart.
Questions to Consider: Do you do most of the giving in your friendships & relationships?
Ever catch yourself doing everything because you can’t trust someone else can do it as well as you can? ​​
Insight: While your independence serves you well in many situations, it can sometimes lead to feelings of isolation and difficulty in forming deep connections.
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Do any of these feel all too familiar?
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Emotional detachment that ends up impacting intimate relationships
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The feeling of “it’s all up to me”
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Challenges in setting & expressing boundaries
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Trust issues that end up affecting personal & professional interactions
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Be Aware: Over-reliance on self may isolate you, making deep connections challenging.
Silver Lining: Your independence can be a superpower that, when balanced with vulnerability, can not only foster deeper connections & authentic relationships but also cultivate success in your professional life.
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