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Rest well instead of rest exhausted

Johanna Lynn

I remember watching my mother collapse into bed each night, completely drained from giving every ounce of herself to everyone else.


Her daily rhythm was a familiar dance: wake up early, prepare breakfast for everyone, rush to work, come home to cook dinner, clean the house, help with homework, and finally crawl into bed. This wasn't just tiredness, it was bone-deep exhaustion that seemed to echo through generations of women in our family.


What I didn't realize then, but understand now, is that I wasn't just watching a behavior – I was inheriting a pattern.


Scientists call this epigenetics: the way our genes can be influenced by our experiences and environment, potentially passing down not just physical traits, but behavioral tendencies through generations.


Have you ever caught yourself saying "I'll never be like my mother" only to find yourself burning the candle at both ends, just like she did?


The pattern of endless doing isn't just a learned behavior – it's potentially written into our very cells, a legacy of generations of women who believed their worth was measured by how much they gave or their level of exhaustion.


Now for the Good News - We can rewrite this story. Just as our mothers passed down their patterns of self-sacrifice, we can pass down new patterns of self-care.


Science shows that epigenetic changes can be reversed through conscious choices and lifestyle changes. When we choose to rest well instead of rest exhausted, we're not just changing our own lives – we're influencing the well-being of our children and grandchildren.


Breaking the cycle starts with recognizing these inherited patterns

The guilt that comes with taking a break. That's not your guilt – that's generations of women being told that rest is selfish.


The need to be needed. When Mom would insist on doing everything herself, it was about worth being tied to usefulness.


So how do we begin to rest well?


It starts with permission. Giving yourself permission to take a nap without explanation. Permission to leave dishes in the sink. Permission to say no to obligations that drain you.

Each time you choose rest over exhaustion, we're not just healing ourselves – we're sending a powerful message to our children, especially our daughters, that their worth isn't measured in productivity.


What if, instead of passing down the legacy of exhaustion, we could pass down the legacy of well-being?


What if our children could inherit not just our eye color or smile, but also our healthy boundaries and self-care practices?


The science of epigenetics gives us hope. Just as stress and trauma can be passed down, so can resilience and healthy coping mechanisms.


When we choose to rest well, we're not just changing our own lives – we're influencing the genetic expression of future generations.


Next time you feel the familiar pull to override your need for rest, remember - You're not just resting for yourself. You're resting for your mother, who perhaps never learned how. You're resting for your children, who are learning from your example. You're resting for future generations, who deserve to inherit a legacy of well-being rather than exhaustion.


The most radical thing we can do is break the cycle of exhaustion. Our mothers gave us everything they had. Now it's our turn to give future generations something different - that rest isn't selfish – it's sacred.


Ready to put your own needs 1st?


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